May is Asian American and Pacific Islander Heritage Month (AAPI) which is a time to honor the heritage, culture and history of my fellow Pacific Islander people. Although there are great benefits to joining forces with Asian Americans in celebrating our heritage this month, there are also downfalls to it. Generally speaking, Pacific Islanders are often forgotten or not acknowledged in the media. It’s as if we are marginalized in the marginalized community. I’m a proud bi-racial Samoan and Caucasian woman and I’m honored to shine some light on our Pacific Islander heritage. The best way I know how I can contribute to that is by sharing the stories of 4 beautiful Pacific Islander women. I asked them each a series of questions and they so graciously opened up very honestly. It’s my honor to share each of their stories with you all (these Pacific Islander women will remain anonymous).

Q: Who has been an inspiration to you, helping you feel more confident as a Pacific Islander?

[SG] My Aunty – she never treated me differently. She never changed how she acted with me based on who I was. It was always the same and it was a lifetime transformation for me.

[LBW] My Dad – he didn’t know he was doing a lot of modeling. Being in the Samoan community, people often thought my Dad was White, and yet he is one of the best orators in our family. He was so engrossed in the Samoan community and eventually created a following where people would think “There’s that the Samoan–white guy”. Eventually, the community knew who he was by his name. Dad was a single dad raising two kids and he put himself through graduate school all the way earning a Ph.D.

[NP] My Mom – all the challenges she has faced and overcome. She’s very prideful of who she is and where she came from. She dropped out of school at 9th grade in Samoa to take care of her mom. She didn’t come to US until she was 18 years old without speaking any English. Mom is the most nurturing person I know!

[RA] My mom– I appreciate her sharing stories from her childhood of what she could remember from Nana’s childhood and beyond. Storytelling is sacred. Hearing elders gather around and speaking their language just pulls you in. Mom’s goal is to preserve her Chamorro culture and tradition.

Q: What are the top challenges you have faced as a Pacific Islander woman?

[SG] Because the world (mostly white people) is looking for one type of Hawaiian, commonization and appropriation is hard for me. It’s a challenge to want to be seen and feel very far from the origin of that truth. I don’t know how else to feel Hawaiian if you don’t look it, talk it, what else does it take to be and feel Hawaiian?

[LBW] Breaking through cultural stigmas – you’re supposed to be a great orator, live a respectable and obedient as the eldest daughter, stay home and take care of your parents.

[NP] Not only am I Samoan but I have to represent who I am, knowing there were other Pacific Islanders I went to school with. It wasn’t always easy to demonstrate representation to others. It was hard for me to explain let alone being understood by others. Being home was different than being at school ­– we could dress in Brittany Spears clothes at school but when we were at home we had to wear ie’s and RESPECT who we were around and what we were doing.

[RA] Not being recognized as Chamorro. When you come across someone who doesn’t know who you are, it’s easy to be stereotyped.

Q: What are myths about Pacific Islanders that you might offer truths about?

[SG] That they’re not petite and pale. Some are and some aren’t. Also that their hair isn’t long. – it’s nothing and everything. It comes in every form. Pacific Islanders are on a spectrum of petite, pale to tall, dark.

[LBW] This is what a “true Samoan” would look like, act like, talk like – regardless of how I talk, dance or walk, I know inside my blood ran Samoan. I can look however I want to look and talk however I want to talk I can BE however I want to be. In higher education, Pacific Islanders only belong as student–athletes and are not very smart. If you are a Samoan student–athlete, use it as a platform to receive your education. If you’re not an athlete, the world is your oyster! You are the smartest and capable human being no matter what you’re doing or who you are.

[NP] Having to prove that I’m Samoan because I’m not Samoan enough, I don’t look Samoan, or because I don’t talk a certain way. One of the reasons I didn’t hang out with the Samoans in junior high school is because it was exhausting to prove that I was Samoan.

[RA] That we live in huts – that’s just not true! People also look at everyone as being the same – big, fierce, overweight, and don’t take care of their health.

Q: For those who want to know and do differently right now, what are a few ways you can offer to preserve our heritage or culture?

[SG] Learn our language and start small. Learn a song, or a prayer, or something and use it every day. It keeps our ancestors alive on earth as long as we use language they understand.

[LBW] Read, find books written by Pacific Islander authors, not from a white lens. Talking and sharing stories (orating) is a great way to pass along knowledge. A step further would be to write it down – for yourself, for your kids, for your family. Let’s start documenting these stories.

[NP] Surround yourself with your people, good people. You’ll learn something from them, and it helps feel much more empowered to be surrounded by other Polynesians. Knowing the language better and speaking to it to children in whatever way you can, broken or not. Having the malu is also very important to me in preserving my Samoan heritage. My parents come to me for everything family related and culturally related; it comes with a lot of honor.

[RA] Teach it to the children through literature and storytelling. Even the small words we know is helpful to share or encourage kids to sit and listen to parents and elders. Taking the kids back home to Guam makes you humble to see what they are missing and what we have in America. Prayer is also important. Try and teach to pray and be grateful for what you have and know who you are.

What I love about each of these women is the vulnerability they had to share some of their hard truths without shame. As Pacific Islander women, we are expected to hold it down for our families and household, let alone what’s expected in the workplace or at school. It’s vital we take the time to give voice to our hardships, and stand in solidarity with one another. One thing Pacific Islanders excel at is the collective community – it’s the aiga (family) we lean into that makes us feel less alone and more connected.

Whether you identify as Pacific Islander or American Asian, know that we celebrate and honor one another each and every day. Take the time to check in on each other, ask how you can support someone, and definitely lean into your community for connection. Happy AAPI month to you all!

Light + Love,

Bev

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I left my corporate job about a month and a half ago and am still healing. I didn’t know exactly where I would go to next, but I chose a date and circled it any way. What I did know was that it was my time to step outside of the comfort zone of doing my job well, into the uncertainty of trusting my intuition.

So here I am navigating a phase in-between the old era, Monday through Friday 40-50 hours a week, and what’s to come in a new era (offering up my gifts to the world of women leaders having an impact in the way that fuels me). It’s the good ol’ transition creeping in my life yet again as I explore this change that was totally intentional yet a bit unclear.

In my monthly email I spoke about transitions, and walked through a transition model by William Bridges. If you want to check out a visual of this simple yet powerful model, you can download the free Transition Worksheet here. I wrote a few coaching questions for each of the 3 phases in a transition, and also included a few tips on how to honor that specific phase. Let’s take me as a real and practical example:

Transition

I am releasing the typical 40-hour week of a rigid schedule and now discovering what work and life is like for me as a Coach-sultant (Coach + Consultant)

Old Era

Q: How can you symbolize the end of an era?

A: Sending back the hardware and belongings for work really put things into perspective because they were physically out of my sight. Something I did was pray over my office asking for a cleanse of what was to what is in this new era. That helped conclude my time working full-time, giving thanks and gratitude for all the years I had worked from the office.

Neutral Zone

Q: What is most important to you?

A: I have definitely rested and restored my body, mind and spirit over the summer. What I know is most important to me is being present for everything from my kids to possibilities with my own coaching business. Having a well-balanced schedule of work and play is also important for me going into a new era. Nothing felt better than to have complete peace in the moment without worrying about any obligations or doing something I dreaded doing. I don’t ever want to loose that feeling and essence of peace and calming.

New Era

Q: How can you celebrate new beginnings?

A: I am definitely excited for what’s to come in my near future (and now!). I am celebrating by taking walks JUST BECAUSE… going paddle boarding JUST BECAUSE… and even reading a book outside in the middle of the day JUST BECAUSE. I’m also giving myself the permission to share openly about my coaching practice, intentions to create and innovate, and what’s’ next even when it’s not super clear. All while quieting down that hyper-achiever in me :)

Processing, reflecting, processing some more really helps me have clarity for what’s possible rather than “what if…”. The intent is not to ignore my negative feelings that may arise through transitions, but instead using them as an indicator that something is off for me – so now what? What I choose from that point in time can either deplete me or serve me.

What transitions are you going through? What’s possible if you can pause in this moment to reflect which phase you are in?

Give yourself grace, patience and understanding no matter what transition you are in!

Light + Love,

Bev

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When I wake up each morning, I turn off my alarm and head to the kitchen to start my morning ritual. It includes listening to brief meditations, making coffee, clearing the dishwasher (me clearing space for what’s possible in the day ahead) then sitting in my quiet corner speaking with and learning from God. Then, there are certain habits for when I wrap up my day, reflecting and journaling my gratitude and connecting with my husband during uninterrupted time.

What I do to start and end my days are very important for me since I have been on this path of discovering who I am at my core and what I need. My healthy habits help me provide a more meaningful journey in this life. What I realize the more I rinse and repeat is that every type of healthy habit I have supports 3 main facets that in sum create my entire being:

1. Physical Body – I have no shame in admitting that I have tried a fad diet or 2 in my lifetime. The one that stuck with me the most (beyond the program itself) is Weight Watchers. Weight Watchers helped me see what I was missing as part of basic needs of my body (like my water and fruits/veggies intake). I also learned how moving my body was another factor in a healthy body, whether it was a workout in the gym or a Zumba class! Moving my body meant more than sweating my butt off and being short of breath. The thing that matters the most to me these days is how I feel after applying some of the basic rules for a healthy body. I don’t obsess over a number on the scale, yet I don’t indulge on emotional eating because I’m not at the weight I was 10 years ago. I only get ONE body on this earth and it’s up to me to treat it with compassion and love, just like I do for my children!

2. Mindset – Stillness and meditation used to be too “woo woo” for me. I even took a course in Mindfulness nearly 10 years ago and just couldn’t stop laughing at all the serious faces and breathing in the room around me. I am happy to report that I am totally a “woo woo” person and I will never have a waking day I don’t practice intentional breathing, serious and all! I’m not a black belt in meditating, but the more time I spend in stillness the better I get at dismissing senseless thoughts that distract me from the present moment. I’m learning so much about the power of my perception and it has helped me heal from even the deepest wombs I have.

3. Spiritual – Part of my meditating process is to connect with my higher being, God. There’s something euphoric that happens in stillness which includes my ego being put aside to honor God’s desires and intentions. As each day unfolds, situations occur through direct and indirect conversations, events take place all around the world, “life happens” and the choice of what I do or how I respond is completely up to me. The more obedient I am in my relationship with my Lord and Savior, the more clearer I am on how to be in the present moment.

My healthy habits are like the icing on the cake. The cake is made up of these 3 main ingredients, and the icing is about how I activate and sustain these facets of my being.

What healthy habits do you have? What is important for you that may lie underneath those habits?

Get curious with your habits and ask yourself these questions to ensure what you are doing is ultimately supporting who you are.

Light + Love,

Bev

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What does happiness mean to you? How do you achieve happiness? What ways do you measure whether you’re happy or not?

I used to attach happiness to moments and achievements – graduating college, being accepted in graduate school, getting my dissertation published in a psychology journal, having our first child, and on and on. Today, I realize that happiness means finding fulfillment in what is rather than sulking in what is not. Happiness lies in the feeling of an experience rather than the ultimate outcome that is intended.

Tal Ben–Shahar defines happiness in his book Happier as, “the overall experience of pleasure and meaning.”

In other words, happiness lies in experiencing something that brings joy and humbles our hearts. Happy moments can definitely come with those big achievements, and yet they don’t last forever. It’s just like thinking about hardships – they don’t last forever (thank goodness) and they also strengthen our resilience.

The world seems heavy still and I am in need of some relief. I have been intentional around creating moments of joy throughout each day instead of waiting for the violence and hate to be over. I have no control over others around me, but what I do have control over is my reactions, my feelings, my intent to thread happiness within my days.

You might be asking, “But Bev… how do I seek happiness when it feels really heavy around us?” I’m so glad you asked!

I have 3 things that I have been doing lately that I find really helpful to rinse and repeat:

Step 1: Ground myself in God’s Word //  God’ truth in the Bible is permanent and can never be revised, updated or edited. When I feel lost, confused or overwhelmed, the Bible offers me the wisdom that is unshakable. It is the weapon of the Spirit and can defeat any thought, person or circumstance that will ever come my way.

“For the word of God is full of living power. It is sharper than the sharpest knife, cutting deep into our innermost thoughts and desires.” – Hebrews 4:12

Step 2: Surrender all fears of earthly things (including people) // When I feel nervous, anxious, threatened, competitive or even prideful, I know it’s an indicator for me to surrender. Surrender my thoughts, feelings, actions to God. The only fear God desires is to fear Him. When I fear God, it means I will stand in awe of His glory and worship Him and Him only. When I fear the Lord, there is no room to fear any other person, thing or even myself!

“All who fear the Lord will hate evil.” – Proverbs 8:13

Step 3: Pick a happy place or activity and DO IT // There is always at least one opportunity in each day to find something I love to do or a place I love to be. I give myself permission (talking to the over-productive Bev here) and just do it! It might last an hour, it might last 5 minutes. The time length means nothing to me compared to whether I took action on doing something that brings me joy or not.

I share this with you to encourage you to stop waiting for THE big moment. Take action RIGHT NOW to create a meaningful experience that fulfills you. If you wait until the perfect time or place or day, you will have waited for too long!

Light + Love,

Bev

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Life can be hard… let me give you some examples as of late:

// My Dad and a few of my family members tested positive with COVID

// This month marks 5 years since my Mom passed away and entered her eternal life

// We’re in a really rainy, gloomy and cold season in WA

Don’t worry– I’m truly okay and don’t need empathy, I promise!

I am sharing some hard truths with you to let you know that THESE MOMENTS HAPPEN. Eventually we learn something from the hard moments and things start to shift because nothing stays constant. I have grown more appreciative for the hard moments that occur in my life. They always tend to jolt me back in gratitude of my normal life.

Those hard moments I shared with you are all disruptions of my norm, and required me to pivot and think of new ideas and possibilities:

// I stayed prayerful, faithful and calm for my family who felt like crap and had to isolate themselves from the rest of the family and America. I connected more on a daily basis with my family to ensure they were okay and they had what they needed to feel as comfortable as possible.

// I thought about my Mom a lot and pondered how she would feel watching my kiddos grow up with sass. I cried as I thought about how much I miss her, and then I sat in gratitude for her fun, loving and strong spirit she carried and left on this earth.

// I really have to be intentional in getting ourselves outside at least once a day, rain or shine. We started tracking our time outside following the 1000 Hours Outside challenge and mother nature is life giving for us all!

It may seem unreasonable to think you can go from OMG THIS IS HARD… to I GOT THIS type of mentality, but reaching a point of action is totally do-able with time and practice. Here are a few steps of a process that might be of help to you the next time your hard moment occurs:

1. Feel – Think of the hard moment you are experiencing as an indicator to check in with yourself and your feelings. Don’t fight the hardship and DO NOT ignore it. Give yourself time to express what the hardship is bringing to you. The trick is not to let yourself feel the hardship beyond the day it occurred.

2. Reflect – Give yourself time and space to journal or verbalize your response to a few key questions: What is the disruption that the hard moment is creating? What’s uncomfortable about it? What’s the gift or opportunity that might be in this hard moment?

3. Desires – Once you release the negative feelings, think about what you really want to feel. How might you embrace the gift and grow from it? Think about the best case scenario for you and stay with those feeling – maybe it’s relief, presence, compassion, empathy… name it and claim it!

4. Permission – What permission do you need to stay in the desired feeling and move forward from the hard moment? It might be permission from yourself or from someone else you know. Stating your permission frees you to move on and not revert back into the hard feelings.

5. Action – Through taking action, you are moving forward… taking your learnings and putting them into practice. For example, with my Mom’s eternal life, the action I eventually took was talking about her with my husband and kiddos, thinking about what we have done in years prior to honor her life on earth. New insights are great, and taking action upon those insights is where your growth lies.

We all get through hard moments, and yet there’s always room for improvement. I challenge you to get through the next hard moment with intention, in service of YOU.

You can do hard things! If you’re not uncomfortable, you’re not growing!

Light + Love,

Bev

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Hello 2021!

So much happened in 2020 that had me feeling SO many different things. It felt like I was running very short sprints with my emotions which totally makes sense after reflecting on the year. There were so many different events that occurred, lots of big events, lots of little ones… some things brought intense emotions like overwhelm, stress, anxiety, while other events brought excitement, curiosity, joy or calmness.

I took the last few months to reflect on the year and to my surprise I had an overwhelmingly sense of warmth. The big and small events brought me closer to God, bringing all of my thoughts to him and surrendering what was out of my control. I felt more connected to the Holy Spirit which always grounds me. I also spent more and more time outside in nature paddle boarding, fishing and swimming at the lake, hiking new trails. Being outside as a family brought so much curiosity and exploration… exactly how I remember my childhood being outside a lot of the time!

That sense of freedom was KEY for me last year and I refuse to have another year go by without spending time every day outdoors. One thing I choose to focus on in 2021 is to bring back the things that brought me joy as a kid – rollerblading, playing softball, dodgeball, basketball, playing games. I am saying YES to more of these types of things and NO to exhausting my eyes and brain at the computer screen from morning until night. YES to meaningful experiences and NO to buying things that have no purpose. YES to more outreach and volunteering my time with communities who are in need and NO to things that don’t energize me or that I feel obligated to say yes to.

Essentially, what I’m doing is preparing myself to say yes to more things that serve me and no to things that are preventing me from being honest. I’m saying yes to things that are good for my soul and no to things that my ego may be attached to.

Are you ready to claim your YES’s and stand firm with your NO’s? Here are 3 simple steps to help you gain some clarity:

1. REFLECT – Think about the last year and the ebbs and flows in your life. It started with life pre-Covid and ended in the midst of Covid. There will be good moments, neutral moments and perhaps even some bad moments that occurred. How did you build resilience and strength? What worked or didn’t work for you? Carry those things over to the new year as lessons learned that you can course correct along the way as you begin 2021.

2. ENVISION – This is where the magic happens! Take a few hours or days to think about what you desire in the new year. Set your intentions on what to focus on, to complete or to integrate into your day to day life. Allow yourself to DREAM!

3. TAKE ACTION – Taking action each day towards what you envision is one way to step out of fear and into abundance. You don’t need a grand master plan before you step into action, you just need hunger and determination. Also expect to fail – it leads to growth!

If you need more guidance, visit the Coaching Resources page to download the New Year and Reflections worksheet.

Last year was rough for each and every one of us. Extend yourself some grace and build from it. Set your intentions and get ready for all of those possibilities in 2021!

Light + Love,

Bev

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As we near the end of the year, I’m not gonna lie – I’m riding the struggle bus straight into exhaustion. I mean, hello 2020!

I am more and more aware of listening to my body and the signals it provides me when I’m tired, when I need to shut my mind off and simply restore my energy. Over the Thanksgiving break, I fully unplugged myself and stayed away from my computer screens for about 5 days. IT. FELT. GLORIOUS.

I went into Monday feeling charged and rested. I felt like the clouds in my brain had parted and I was seeing blue skies! Then I started to ask myself, why did I wait so long to do that?

The pandemic definitely has shifted life and we never seem to be really settling on a “done” state. I am finding continuous moments of learning, growing, recalibrating and resetting to do live all over again each waking day. It’s extremely valuable to be intentional with how and when we restore ourselves in the midst of it all.

I want to share with you 4 things that are helping me intentionally restore myself:

1. Use the weekends to unplug – I have to ask myself, “What’s the thing(s) you find yourself doing the most during the week?” and then be willing to put that thing on the bench for the weekend. I give myself permission to step away from the day to day tasks and step into a reset day doing things that I just can’t find the time to do throughout the week.

2. Swap the phone for a book – I really want to pour more time into reading more. I have so many good books I’ve collected (and lots on my book list) to indulge in. Yet, I seem to lose a sense of time by the end of the day and find myself on the couch scrolling through Instagram or Facebook. I want to spend more time reading compelling stories rather than watching 30-second “stories” on social media so I place a book near my couch at arms reach during those commercials!

3. Spend some QT outdoors – I have grown to love my surroundings more and more, particularly since we are covered in tall pine trees and gorgeous hills in the state of WA. Every single time I make it outside, I feel so refreshed and grounded when I come back inside the house. Mother nature is an incredible gift to remind us of the beauty of God’s country.

4. Meditate each day – I am a huge fan of this one, and I prefer to start my day in meditation Monday through Sunday. There’s nothing better than quieting the to do list and thoughts to connect my mind, body and soul. I feel completely in my own skin and connected with a greater purpose than what might be surfacing my ego.

I hope these tips can help you stir up some ideas on the ways you restore yourself. Be sure to honor your energy and restore your mind and body regularly and frequently. Let’s not lose sight of ourselves in the chaos and instead rejoice in the true Christmas spirit through connection and love.

Light + Love,

Bev

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I was talking to my husband the other night about TRANSITION. What does that mean? How is transition different from change? What has transition looked like for us, and even my life before meeting my prince charming (yes, you Babs if you’re reading this!). First off, to differentiate the two, the biggest difference between change and transition is that change is an event that occurs quickly, which most people react towards. Transition occurs internally through your mindset, which is the response to change that occurred.

What I realized is that the first time I truly experienced a transition was when when my parents divorced when I was 2 years old. The change was both of them splitting up (the event) and my transition was about creating a norm being raised by 2 parents who lived apart from one another. From that very early point on, I can spot MANY other seasons of transition carrying over to present day.

Each birthday brought on a new transition in that year. Each grade I entered certainly came with transition. Each weekend I went from Mom’s house to Dad’s house I had to transition into my environment, family, culture and home. Even now as an adult I am constantly in a state of transition – moving from state to state… becoming a new parent… embracing different career opportunities… understanding myself even deeper through my walk with God.

Some of these transitions were smooth sailing for me, while others I resisted… pretty hard. Which led me to think, what are the lessons I have learned in my life about transitions? How can I take those lessons and re-learn them to help with some of the current transitions I face today (hello, COVID!) and any transition I will embrace in the future?

Here are the top 5 things I have learned through transitions which I hope can help you through any transition you may be facing:

1. Acknowledge the change that is occurring – Don’t step over it or hide from it because it will just delay your healing.

2. Nothing in life will stay constant (including yourself!) – Life is about the ebbs and flows of your being, including the ups and downs of situations that occur. Relax through the transition, giving yourself time to reflect on what was, honor what is, and anticipate what is to come with an open heart.

3. There is no picture perfect “right way” to approach a transition – Your way is the only way that you will get through it. Find what works for you, use your own methods to stay grounded through the shifts, and make adjustments that are necessary to honor your soul.

4. Breathe into who you are in the present moment without judgement – Don’t fault yourself for feeling sad, upset, stressed about the change. You are exactly where you need to be in this season of life, and know that you can choose to feel another way that will serve you.

5. You have what it takes to embrace this transition – The years and experiences on earth has equipped you with what you need to survive. God would never put you through a situation you can’t handle as long as you walk alongside of Him. Lean into your faith, your family, your support system.

I have a nice graphic about transition that you can download on my FREEBIES page.

Be kind to yourself, meet your current needs through a change, and embrace the new transition with a heart of possibility.

What season are you transitioning into?

Light + Love,

Bev

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Morning routines are a necessity for me to function throughout my day. I have a specific routine that gets my mind and spirit right which involves spending time in the bible reading God’s word, praying, meditating, breathing and journaling. This is a jump start for my day, where I set intentions in a proactive way rather than allowing life to happen to me.

These rituals have helped me launch into the morning, yet I soon realized how my evenings differed. I’m so mentally exhausted from work, kids, life and I just want to sit on the couch and veg out to some reality TV. I decided I needed to end my evening the way I began the morning– in stillness, thanking God for the many many blessings, and journaling in gratitude.

Morning routines… night routines… here I was thinking I’m killin’ the game in life! Then I have an intensely emotionally-draining day just a short week ago. After pinpointing the root cause of the exhaustion (different meetings with different people with different ideas), I realized– shoot, Bev… you have a killer morning routine, and added a soothing evening routine, yet you’re missing a mini-routine to keep my sanity throughout the day. Something that would allow me to be in silence, take deep breaths, and re-center myself with the world around me instead of staying stuck in a perspective that does NOT serve me. I needed something that is attainable in a short amount of time for those busy days, and also help me release any ill-feelings towards anyone or caused by anyone’s words.

I rallied up 3 simple things I can do in 5 minutes (preferably while stepping outside in fresh air). The intention is that I give myself grace and permission to reset and release in the moment until I can journal and reflect at a later time. Thought it would be helpful to share this reset:

1- Release all Judgement – this one is a hard one to do, but has so much freedom in it. I choose to release all judgements of myself and of others. One reason I love to reset outside is so I can take a deep breath, look up in the sky and mentally release the thoughts or reactions I had about someone based on what was said or even how it was said. Releasing judgement allows me to be more present with a full heart.

2- Forgive with Compassion – whether I actually receive an apology or not, forgiving someone is ultimately in service of me (or you). Compassion is key in forgiveness grounding me back to the human being I need to heal from. Compassion allows me to let go of any assumptions and be in the moment moving forward with love.

3- Speak an Affirmation – there is nothing more powerful than to look in the mirror and claim who I am and what I deserve. I deserve to be seen. I hear you. I love you. I can take a break without explaining myself to anyone. You are complete as you are right now. These words guide me in love and self acceptance no matter where I am or who I am with.

There it is… my mini-reset routine I can do in the matter of a few minutes to help me sustain my energy throughout the day. And now comes the practice… which by the way I have created a visual for easy access you can post on social media or save on your photos. Download it in the Freebies page (if you need the password, you can enter your email on the bottom of this webpage)!

What do you do to reset throughout the day?

Light + Love,

Bev

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Thoughts fly through my mind… some I chase and some I acknowledge and let pass. Those thoughts I end up chasing take me in quite a bit of a spiral.

True story example:

Don’t forget, Bev – schedule a dentist appointment for the kids

I better go check if I saved the dentist office so I don’t have to dig and look for it later

Well what days are best for my schedule with work and life?

How will this appointment go with them wearing a mask to sitting in the chair with them?

Shoot, I should really look into scheduling my own dentist appointment too

My husband hasn’t gone himself in so long!

In fact, I have to schedule his dentist, optometrist and doctor’s appointment

On…

and on…

and on….

The spiral just spins down QUICK in the matter of minutes! And all of a sudden, I’m tired and have some anxiety about getting everything done before I even forget! I just don’t want to do any of this at all right now and my time, energy and mind was just consumed with information that didn’t serve me one bit but to simply tell myself I need to schedule the kids dentist appointment!

I can do without all the extra non-serving, presence-robbing thoughts in my brain. Fortunately, I’ve been practicing healthy ways to sort through those thoughts and gain clarity to the ones I decide to prioritize. Here are 5 ways to gain clarity on YOUR thoughts so you can release them and go back to enjoying what’s in front of you:

1. Mind dump in journal – put a pen to paper and simply write everything that comes to mind. Don’t pass judgement, don’t worry about proper grammar, don’t overthink it- just write! It’s helpful to set a timer and write for the entire time until your timer goes off. This is a great cleanse of your thoughts and feelings which most of the time can get stuck in a story that isn’t serving you. I love doing this first thing in the morning when I am doing my quiet time before the day starts!

2. Write down your questions – write out 100 questions that you have about a thought or problem you are trying to solve. Your curiosity tends to simply be just curiosity that you don’t have to necessarily solve for. Other times, your curiosity can spark further clarity if your questions target the similar themes.

3. Schedule a meeting with spouse – yes, we talk a lot to our spouse, but there’s something so relieving when you can focus a conversation on a topic on a specified date and time. Both of you have prep time to think and then offer up your individual thoughts and concerns. When I do this with my hubs, it tends to be straight to the point and much more smooth sailing when we know what we’re talking about or solving for!

4. Phone a friend – this is a fan fave! Pick up the phone and call your family or friend. It helps if you preface the convo with if you’re looking for empathy or strategy. That way he/she knows if you want to simply be heard and leave it there... or if you need problem solving. It’s okay to ask for what you need!

5. Walk in nature – Throw on your shoes and take a very present walk outside. Listen to the leaves bristle in the wind, to the birds chirping loudly, feel the sun or rain or cold air against your skin, and feel each step hit the pavement as you move your legs. Breathe in that fresh air and exhale any uncertainties!

Our thoughts do not own us… we are not defined by them! So release them in one of these 5 ways and gain clarity on what truly matters then get right back to what’s directly in front of you. All of a sudden, you’ll blink and that person, pet, thing will be onto other things before you know it!

What thoughts can you release? Which method can you take action on RIGHT NOW?

Light + Love,

Bev

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